Find a date with us: stay positive!
For social neurologist Arthur Aron, “people do meet through friends, but it’s difficult and that’s probably the single biggest virtue of online dating”. Yet online dating does not always bring the perfect partner immediately. Trying to find love online, or even just finding somebody truly compatible can take time; but this is all part of ensuring your relationship is a long-lasting success.
For those understandably unwilling to compromise when it comes to love, it can sometimes be difficult to find a date. EliteSingles supports its members by linking compatible matches based on an initial personality profile and your specified preferences. But, while online dating “offers unprecedented (and remarkably convenient) levels of access to potential partners”, and some users find a date right away, for most it may still take some time and effort to meet that special someone.
When inspired by stories of online dating successes, it can be demoralising if online matches do not immediately present themselves as an ideal partner. Rest assured, however, that those whose profiles are complete and utilise the many channels of communication on the site, usually find a date and a compatible relationship fairly quickly.
Benefitting from past experiences
Eli Finkel, social psychologist at Northwestern University in the USA, correctly writes that “each new person you meet online is a chance for a spark that is worth exploring”. But even if first dates do not produce the dream relationship, this does not always mean time wasted.
Recognizing the reasons why a promising start did not begin a serious relationship is, regardless, a valuable exercise, and is often a necessary part of the search- especially for those later in life who are just returning to dating. Identifying why certain dates did not meet expectations focuses the mind and provides a valuable indicator of exactly what you want in a future relationship; for a successful relationship requires mutual values and goals, not just attraction.