2. Say cheese
Profile pictures are an important part of online dating and it's not a matter of people being superficial: it's in our human nature to want to connect with people that seem real and tangible. So don't shy away when it comes to uploading a photo of yourself.
Avoid: Coming across as camera shy
In fact, 50 per cent of Canadian respondents wouldn’t even open a profile that was devoid of photos. This means that, if you choose anonymity, you are alienating nearly half of your potential suitors – definitely behavior to avoid! Owen suggests that the reason so many people prefer seeing photos is because ‘’If you haven’t got a photo attached it makes it really hard for other online daters to connect with you as another human being.’’ This is partly due to the fact that ‘’we build up an idea of a person’s personality by looking at their photo.’’3
Embrace: Being picture perfect
It does seem that visuals are vital to online dating, with 51 per cent of Canadians rating the photo as the one thing that they look most closely at in a profile (a trend echoed in every single country we surveyed). Of course, simply having a pic is not enough: those who tend to top the nice list also avoid the most common photo mistakes. In Canada these include having a photo that is too revealing (chosen as the biggest no-no by 32 per cent), wearing sunglasses (17 per cent), presenting a photo that is poorly photo-shopped (14 per cent) and being in too many party pictures (11 per cent). And, interestingly, the much-maligned selfie was not as hated as its reputation would suggest, being picked by just 7 per cent of our members.
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3. Write a profile that reveals the real you
While it can be so tempting to write a profile that includes a few well-meant fibs, here’s the thing – it can’t last. Once you meet in person any sweet little lies are going to get rumbled. In fact, you’ll soon find that telling porkies is one of the quickest routes to the naughty corner, especially according to EliteSingles members.
Avoid: Little white lies
With so many of our members looking for true love, it’s really little wonder that fibbing is so frowned upon. Whether it is in a profile, a message or even on a date, if you’re caught out in an obvious lie it is unlikely to endear you to someone new. In fact, 81% of our Canadian respondents would disapprove if someone turned up to a date looking different from their profile. Furthermore, 66% of Canadians wouldn’t even consider a relationship with someone who embellished themselves! In other words, it pays to stay honest.
Embrace: Keeping it real
Owen agrees that real is best, pointing out that ‘your online profile is there to help those you're matched with find out who you genuinely are.’4 If we were going to get a little sentimental we would say this: a big part of the EliteSingles experience is finding someone who is going to fall for you – the real you. If you opt for untruths, you don’t give anyone that chance. In other words, don’t let little lies get in the way of finding true love: when it is time to write a profile, make a vow to be honest. It really is the best policy.
EliteSingles editorial, September 2015
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