Finding love is easier when you follow these 4 steps

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Finding love can seem like a daunting task. It can be hard to know where to begin. That’s why EliteSingles has created a handy guide for those in the dating game. We’ve identified the four best steps that can help our members find online success. It all starts here – are you ready?

1. Keep your chin up

Heartbreak. It’s awful. And, when it lays you low, it can be hard to return to your old form. But here’s the thing: breakups and endings happen to us all. They aren’t a sign that there is something wrong with us – they’re just a sign of a relationship that wasn’t working. In other words, a little heartbreak doesn’t make us any less worthy of finding love.

Of course, if you want the kind of healthy relationship that lasts, you aren’t going to get there by moping. That’s why, when you are seeking a partner, it is vital to keep your chin up. When you start reminding yourself about your own worth, something wonderful happens – other people start to see it too. That’s right, confidence is sexy!1

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2. Look in the right place

Once you have the right mindset on lock, it’s time to take your quest to find love online to the next stage. And the smart way to do that is to make sure you are looking in the right place. Now, this might mean different things to different people – the right place for you depends on what it is you’re looking for.

Do your partner priorities include long-term potential and a deep compatibility? Then the right place might be a dedicated dating site like EliteSingles. We base our matchmaking on what we consider the best ingredients for lasting affection: personality, relationship goals and location in Canada. We’re the right place for singles wanting more from love.

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3. Make finding love a priority

Choosing the right dating site is a big step towards finding love and companionship. But it’s not enough to stop there. Sitting back and waiting for love to find you is not a great strategy – after all, with online dating, you get out what you put in.

That means you may have more luck online if you really make an effort to be an active participant of the site. Taking the time to create a dynamic profile, complete with photos and detailed, up-to-date descriptions is essential. Likewise, those who have the most online success don’t hesitate to grab the bull by the horns and message those who they find interesting. Sound too scary? Start by sending a smile – you never know where that might lead.

READ MORE: Want to be more active? Learn how to create the perfect dating profile.

4. Have fun!

Why are you dating? For most people the answer will have something to do with seeking lasting companionship, affection and bliss. In other words, it’s because finding love is one way to secure a little bit of happiness. And what better way to kick-start romantic happiness than by having fun while you date?

Indeed, once you’ve got your head in the right place, found a likely dating site and polished up your profile, you’ll be well on your way towards dating fun. It will be time to get flirting, get messaging and get to work planning your next great date. Ready to give it a shot? There’s no time like the present!

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Do have questions, comments or tips for finding love? Let us know below or email us at [email protected]


1 Seth Myers, Psy.D for Psychology Today, 2011. Secret Tips: What Makes Someone Sexy & Have Sex Appeal. Found at

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