New study: women happier to be single at a wedding than men
- 56% of singles would rather not have a plus one with their wedding invitation
- 78% of single women, 63% of single men would happily go stag to a wedding
- 28% of single men not given the plus one option would ask if they could bring a date
- Single men take a more romantic approach to weddings than single women
56% of Canadian singles don’t think that plus one invitations are a good idea
Wedding etiquette says that it’s kind to give all single guests a plus one option if you can. But a new study from premium dating site EliteSingles suggests differently. 56% of singles would rather not have the plus one option, as it puts too much pressure on them to pick a suitable date.
Interestingly, it appears that this attitude comes with maturity: just 33% of singles under 30 would be happy without a plus one, compared to 54% of those aged 30-45 and 57% of those aged 45-60.
Women are happier than men to be single at a wedding
In another stereotype-busting reveal, the survey showed that women are the gender that’s the most content to turn up to a wedding without a date. If not given the chance to bring someone, 78% of single Canadian women would happily attend stag, while for men the figure is 63%.
28% of single men not given the option of bringing a date would ask if they could do so
Men are also more likely than women to try and change their hosts’ minds about the guest list. If not given a plus one wedding invitation, more than a quarter of single men (28%) would fly in the face of accepted etiquette and ask if they could bring a date. Just 15% of women would do the same.
Single men take a more romantic approach to weddings than single women
Additionally, men are the most likely to want to put a romantic spin on a wedding. 58% of single men see a wedding as the perfect occasion to meet someone special, compared with 49% of women.
And, if they did bring a date, women would keep things platonic, while men would want romance. For 41% of single women, the ideal wedding date is a platonic friend, with just 14% wanting to bring a crush or brand new beau. Meanwhile, only 18% of men would attend with a friend, while 38% would bring a crush or new flame. Furthermore, 7% of men would look online to find a date.
EliteSingles’ in-house relationship psychologist Zoe Coetzee says ‘’Women can view a wedding more as a communal celebration of love focused on the newly-married couple. Men can experience a wedding more as a competitive arena, raising the preference to bring a plus one.’’
She adds: ‘'Women may feel that taking a new date to a wedding can put too much pressure on a fledgling relationship. Men may see it as a romantic occasion to kick off a new relationship; a beneficial platform to display social capital and enjoy the positive effect of a celebratory atmosphere.'