Four online dating rules – that you should break today
Here are four of the most commonly accepted online dating ‘rules’ that, actually, you’re best off ignoring if you want to find a compatible connection.
Dating rule #1: Only desperate people try online dating
We’ve all heard catty remarks about how online dating is the last refuge for the desperate; a mercenary wife-or-husband hunt that’s somehow inferior to all other forms of romance.
Here’s the thing though: that picture is just not accurate. Online dating is actually incredibly popular, perhaps because it simply makes sense. After all, what sounds more productive: heading to a bar, hoping that there are other singles there (who also happen to be relationship material) OR heading online to join a community of local singles who have already admitted to being available and who, as a bonus, are introduced to you based on compatibility?
New rule: Online dating is actually pretty normal
Judging by current statistics, many think that option two is the way to go. In fact, research has shown that online dating is now the second most-common way to find a partner, while as many as 1-in-3 marriages start online.1,2 It’s not desperate, it’s increasingly mainstream!
Dating rule #2: Love will come when you least expect it
It’s a rom-com staple – your true love is out there, somewhere, and when the time is right the fates will reveal him or her. All you have to do is be patient and have faith.
Nonsense. That might be a sweet (if overused) plot for a movie, but real life - and real love - just don’t work that way. If you sit around waiting for love to come you, all you’re going to get is bored. The fact is, finding love can take work and, despite what the movies say, it’s ok to embrace this. It doesn’t make the relationship you end up with any less special (or any less real) because you opted to take fate into your own hands.
New rule: It’s ok to work for what you want
So much success in life comes from putting yourself out there and the same is true of online dating. To give yourself the best shot at love, make sure you put the effort in: answering the personality test honestly and ensuring that you have a complete profile (including pictures). Find some examples of dating profiles here.