How to ask someone out: our top tips for every scenario
To help ease the 'asking someone out' nerves, we’ve taken a look at the five most common scenarios of asking someone out and outlined our best tips for sucess, complete with on-point advice from our in-house psychologist and relationship expert Salama Marine. If you're wondering how to ask someone out, whther it's online, offline, guys, girls, friends – we have it covered!
How to ask someone out offline
After making sure that this person is single, you should just go for it!
- Salama Marine
We asked EliteSingles’ resident psychologist and relationship expert Salama Marine what the best way to ask someone out who you’ve met offline - perhaps on a night out or through friends. Salama says:
‘'Firstly, if they’ve given you their number, it’s a pretty good sign. After making sure that this person is definitely single, you should just go for it! When you think about it, what do you have to lose? Literally, nothing. Indeed, it really is that simple. Why don’t you suggest a slightly more original date idea? Like going to a new exhibition or choosing a cafe or restaurant that’s a bit different.
Try to find an activity sparks their curiosity. This will subsequently make the date even more appealing. If you don’t get a response, don’t over think it. They’re clearly not the right person for you so you can move on and find the person who is.’
Of course it’s always easier said than done, but confidence really is key to asking someone out. If you feel uncomfortable, they’ll feel uncomfortable and you’re not very likely to get a date. Instead, remind yourself you don’t actually have anything to lose and could gain so much! So next someone catches your eye, take a deep breath, go over to them and ask if they’d like to go on a date. You’ll be surprised how easily you can do it.
- Takeaway tip: Confidence is key when asking someone out - if if you believe you're worth dating, they will too!
How to ask a girl out
It's a question on every straight man and gay girl’s lips from the school playground to later in life: jut how do you ask a girl out?
Part of the questioning might be because women are traditionally cast as mysterious creatures who are difficult to approach and even harder to read. Yet, this is actually rarely the case. Indeed, asking someone out on a date need not be nerve racking. It’s easy to forget that many (if not most) single people are actually seeking someone special and are ready to be swept off their feet at any moment. Bearing this in mind, not over thinking it is key when arranging a date. Keep it simple and direct, for example ‘would you like to join me at this gallery opening on Friday evening – it starts at 7?’ Women appreciate a plan and you’re more likely to get a direct answer. Vagueness will get you nowhere.
Having said this, it’s also important to be flexible. These days, people have busy schedules so it may take some planning to arrange the date. Don’t be instantly disheartened if your initial idea doesn’t work out. Simply make a plan that suits you both. It doesn’t need to be anything particularly decadent (in fact 86% of Canadians polled in a recent EliteSingles survey are happy to meet for a casual coffee on a first date).
- Takeaway tip: Try suggesting a fully formed plan rather than offering a vaguer 'want to go out sometime?'